There’s a few on both audiogon and Head-Fi that don’t state that they’re female outright. All of them provide great insight, and even better, all seem to be respected on both sites.

I really liked Jana Dagdagan (EARSPACE), but she seems quiet, yet loosely associated with both Steve Guttenberg and Darko Audio.

https://youtube.com/@EARSPACE?si=fUNgQKySiW3z15kl

In-person, maybe once. She had a killer audio system that she had installed in her vehicle. Otherwise, ditto on the spouse.

Man, I want to agree with everything that you’ve said. Unfortunately, this isn’t always the case in some of the forums I frequent. No one currently complains about their stuff being made in Japan, but this wasn’t always the case. “Chi-Fi”, and even Taiwanese-made products are currently experiencing what Japanese products previously faced. The “made in America” is something that is often cited, which I support, but sometimes I think there may be something more there - especially when looking at the pattern of comments from said posters. In the end I suspect it’s more about culture and politics than straight up race, but who the hell knows? People are weird AF to begin with.

To each their own with their listening spaces. I personally find aesthetics within a listening space to be an extension of the hobby and the ambiance I’m trying to achieve. I feel like aesthetics also help with acceptance and integration within a shared home - and who wouldn’t want this if this allows you to listen to more music.